What to teach my daughter
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So many times, I begin googling for one thing and end up watching videos about something completely different. Therefore, I was not surprised when I began googling for different craft ideas for the kids and ended up watching photoshopped celebrity videos. What I was surprised at was how different these “role models” (I say role models lightly) look. You would think a person who is representing the value of natural beauty would not be photoshopped to fit into society’s idea of beautiful and acceptable. Then to flick through social media and see what young people are barely wearing is deplorable. I am completely for self-expression but modesty is also a great thing too.
As my daughter grows up, I want her to know that she is loved, strong and capable. I pray she is never pulled into the hype of “society acceptable”. I hope that by teaching her the following things I will never have to worry (too much) about that happening.
You are naturally beautiful, no matter the amount of freckles, moles or little scars. Those things make you unique and more special than wearing the latest in revealing clothing or crazy eye makeup. Some of the most beautiful women I know are perfectly motherly and imperfectly perfect.
Love yourself first because there will be times when you will be in a room where nobody else does. Loving and respecting yourself will give you the strength needed to stand up for yourself.
Do not give in and do not give up. There will be at least one time when all you want to do is give up on a dream or give in to others to make things easier. Do not do it! That decision will alter your life path you wanted for yourself. You may never get that chance again.
I will always tell you NO when the need arises. Because I love you with my complete being I will tell you no. I will guide you and teach you by using the word no. By example I pray you learn when to tell other people no. We will also struggle because of the word no. When you are old enough to understand the times, I said no, I hope they were the right ones you needed to hear.
Thankfully, my beautiful daughter is only six months old. I have a few years before I have to worry about her picking outfits to wear, makeup, others judging her or her hating the word no. However when she is older and looks back at the times I told her no...I hope she sees it was all for her good and because she is loved.
Warm Wishes to You and Yours
Deb
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I hear you Debra, I worry about the future for my son. How the media and online socialability will effect him in later life. Of course though, we don't know, the world is changing at such a fast pace. What we think might be a problem now, might be completely different in 10 - 15 years time. I know I don't have a daughter, but I volunteered with the Girlguides for 10 year prior to having the Robot. Ages 7 through to 14. They amazed me with their knowledge on modern issues. It's well talked about between them. They were well rounded young women when I left. I'd recommend sending your daughter to Girlscouts/Guides one day! I'll be sending the Robot to the Boyscouts! Sorry I rambled! Passionate about this! Maybe I should write a blog post ont it! Yay #abrandnewday!
ReplyDeleteI was in Girl scouts as a kid. I loved it! We cannot wait to get our son in boy scouts next year. I agree these are great programs for kids to be involved in.
DeleteI have two girls under the age of four and often wonder what life has in store for them. I hope they will learn from my example, make their own silly but not stupid mistakes and grow into worldly young women. Until then I'll be crossing everything! :) #KCACOLS
ReplyDeleteI am crossing with ya!
DeleteThis worries me too. My girls are 3 and 19 months and everything about them growing up scares me. Will they grow up in the same world as i did? Will women still be unrepresented? I hope not! #KCACOLS
ReplyDeleteI pray that ,y daughter sees through me she can do anything no matter the obstacle.
DeleteThese are great things to teach your daughter! I think we as women of this generation have a huge undertaking to undo all the terrible expectations for our daughters. This is a great beginning :D
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for linking with #KCACOLS! I hope you come back next Sunday!
Tori
www.themamanurse.com
We as mums need to be strong women for our daughters, especially when it comes to confidence and loving ourselves as we are their first role models! #kcacols
ReplyDeleteI don't have a daughter myself, but many of these fears resonate through me for my son. I want him to love himself, and not let the pressures of the world change him into being someone he is not. I also want him to be strong, and steady. Kind, and gentle. It truly is a task raising humans, isn't it? I find myself frightened quite often (; #KCACOLS
ReplyDeleteI find that I too have these same wants for my step son. I think children today have it harder and need more parental involvement.
DeleteI have 2 girls age 6 years old and 20 months old. This a constant worry to me. I really don't know how will be their life when they are older. I know there is still a long time to wait for that I would like to be there for them, to teach them what they need to know to live their lives with no fears and to persuade their happiness. Follow their heart. You have a good list. Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS :) x
ReplyDeleteYour welcome and Thank you. I think as soon as a child is born a good parent starts to worry!
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